Month: April 2016

Dear Ladies See Reasons Why You Should Avoid Claiming You Are Virgins

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  was motivated to come up with this write-up by the comments of the ladies on a thread I dropped yesterday. I was so amazed when about 95% of ladies claimed they were virgins. The importance of virginity cannot be overemphasized any time any day and it’s a thing everyone should endeavour to keep for reasons best known to you. The rate at which our ladies claim virgin these days is so alarming and i just shake my head in disdain when I see them use it as a leverage to show purity thereby making others feel intimidated
I personally believe virginity shouldn’t be a showcase of holiness or a display of egoistic attitude. When you still have your virginity, it’s for your own good and NOT for the benefit of the nation 

When guys still have their virginity, hardly would their friends know because they will never show it off, rather they try to hide and pretend they are also BADOOs in order not to be ridiculed or laughed at. Guys you know that feeling when you claim you are a virgin in the midst of 50 guys.. Greatest height of bashing.. Hehehe
Note: Don’t get this post twisted because this is NOT an attempt to urge those who still have theirs to give it out, so if your comprehension skill is poor pls kindly read all over as many times as possible or better still, ask someone with a better comprehension skill to explain it to you.

1. It’s Your Pride Which Other Will Not Benefit From

I was shocked when a lady on my previously created thread was just blabbing ” IT’S MY PRIDE & I’M RESERVING IT FOR MY HUSBAND” I mean whose pride should it be ? My own pride ? Smh In as much as your virginity is only for your own good, then why advertise it to the world because you want them to worship or adore you?
2. You Lose Your Respect

Personally, I love virgins so much and I would really like to have one for myself but my love for a lady head on diminishing return if she claims being a virgin on a public forum. Many ladies claim virgins just to show to people that they are s*xually disciplined and pure.

3. Your Friend Start Watching Your Movement

If you live in school hostel you should know what I’m talking about. Ladies in the hostel don’t like when you pride yourself probably because you still have your virginity, that is, when they talk about se x you keep mute, when they talk about their boyfriends you keep mute because you want to show holiness. This trigger jealousy and they start watching your movement and the moment you are spotted playing a dirty game, they would mock you to the extent that you would feeling like packing out of the hostel.

4. It Shows You Are Immature

A mature lady doesn’t announce her virginity, she rather keeps quiet. She talks and mingle with those who have lost theirs without discriminating., Only an immature lady would squeeze their like face as if she has yoyo bitters in their mouths the moment se x discussion comes up.

Some readers might bad mouth me on this …lol what’s your comment ?

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Can You Risk Not Using Condoms?

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Switching out condoms for a more intimate form of birth control is a big step in your relationship. But knowledge is your best defense against unwanted consequences.

  


Switching out condoms for a more intimate form of birth control is a big step in your relationship. But knowledge is your best defense against unwanted consequences.


There’s nothing wrong with wanting to feel closer to the person you love. Perhaps you’ve been dating for a long time and share an unshakable emotional connection and an intense sexual chemistry. Maybe, after spending so much time together, both in and out of the bedroom, that little rubber barrier that stands between you is beginning to feel like an unnecessary nuisance. For many couples, choosing a non-barrier method of birth control in lieu of condoms is a totally natural event in the formation of a long-term relationship. However, before taking the plunge, there are facts you should know, precautions you should take, and conversations you should definitely have with your partner.


The ABCs of STDs

The spread of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) has reached epidemic proportions in the United States. One in three men and women has contracted at least one STD by the age of 24. While new medical treatments and tests have given many people a new lease on life after having such illnesses, the fact remains the same: Most STDs are lifelong conditions, some of which can have very serious long-term effects, especially for women, whose sexual organs are largely internal.


Just because you can’t see the symptoms of an STD doesn’t mean it isn’t there. For example, each year, an estimated three million people are infected with chlamydia, which is sometimes referred to as the silent STD because often it produces no symptoms. As a result, many men and women don’t know they have it. Furthermore, up to 40 percent of women with untreated chlamydia will develop pelvic inflammatory disease, which can result in infertility. Complications in men are rarer.


Know your partner. Sit down with your partner and have a discussion at length about your sexual histories. Depending on what kind of a dynamic your relationship has, this may feel awkward. However, it is absolutely necessary for you to know who your partner was with before you and vice versa. If there were any strange physical symptoms or sexual anomalies during sexual experiences either of you have had in the past, now is the time to be open with each other.


Discuss the consequences. What will be your course of action if you become pregnant? Regardless of what choice you’d make, would your partner be supportive of that choice? Even with another form of birth control, removing the barrier method heightens your likelihood of conceiving, and it’s always important to be clear in your communication with your partner.


Get tested together. Set up an appointment to get tested together and keep that box of condoms handy until you receive the results. When you do hear from the doctor, show your results to your partner and ask him to do the same. As an act of trust, it will bring you emotionally closer together, and seeing test results is the only way for sure to know what you’re signing up for when you’re not using condoms.


It’s wonderful to trust your partner, but it’s even better to know the two of you are safe and healthy. Get tested — and free your mind form other things 

How to Heal a Broken Heart

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When breakups leave your heart aching, you must grieve and find a way to go on.

  

Divorce is a painful, messy matter that can leave both partners feeling like they have just experienced a death. And, in a way, they have experienced that kind of loss — the death of their marriage and their “happily ever after” future, which they believed in and worked toward for so many years. Saying good-bye to that dream and embracing a new, single lifestyle isn’t as easy as simply dividing up your assets and arranging joint custody. There is much more to the story, which is why rebuilding after divorce takes bravery, strength, and a positive attitude. Consider the following steps to help you lay the foundation to restore, rebuild, and rewrite your future:

1 Seek therapy. 

Some people wrongly believe that therapy is a sign of failure or mental illness, but the truth is that we all need extra support sometimes. Therapy will give you a safe, secure place to work through your issues and tackle your new life with aplomb and grace. Additionally, it can be useful to seek therapy for your children, as divorce can be confusing and scary, particularly for younger children who don’t understand the process.

Let go of the guilt. 

When it comes to divorce, we often hear the term “failed marriage,” and some people refer to individuals with multiple divorces as “two-time losers.” What shaming and hurtful terminology! You aren’t a loser or a failure just because you are going through a divorce. Let go of the guilt, and leave those shaming terms in the dust. Rejoice in the fact that you are a brave, strong, independent individual. You are rebuilding your life and doing something that some people are too scared to undergo.

3 Look inward. 

Therapy can help you to look inward, but even without counseling, you can take a look at your own role in the divorce. It’s hard to admit wrongdoing or accept blame, but doing so can actually be quite empowering and keep you from making those same mistakes in your next relationship. Where did you go wrong? Did you shut down during arguments or name-call? Did you hold on to petty hurts or spend too much time in the office? Accept your responsibility in the marriage and the divorce, and then move forward with a clear, free heart.

4 Forgive. 

A wise man once said, “Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for it to kill your enemy.” Truer words were never spoken when it comes to healing a broken heart. If you are bogged down in anger, rage, and resentment, you will never be able to let go of your pain and find happiness again. So, if you are having a hard time forgiving your partner, remind yourself that you are doing it for you and not for him.

5 Rediscover yourself. 

There is a silver lining when it comes to divorce. It offers you the opportunity to rewrite your future and rediscover yourself. You can go back to school and get that culinary degree you always dreamed of, you can take up rock-climbing, you can go on speed dates, or you can flirt with that cute guy in your office. You are free to reach out for your every dream and explore your heart’s desires. Who knows what the next chapter might bring?